A full-bodied yes

✅ A ‘full-bodied yes’. The next time you are faced with a possibly life-altering choice (choice of life partner, career, location etc), where you feel that it is a critical fork in the road or as Bezos calls it a ‘one-way door’, always look for a full-bodied yes. What’s a ‘full-bodied yes’? It is not […]

Resolving conflicts, internally

There is only one type of conflict in this world: All conflict is interpersonal (please read ‘The Courage To Be Disliked’ to understand this more). Imagine a world where you don’t interact with anyone else. Say you live alone on an island. Would there be any conflict? All conflicts at work, or home, or anywhere, […]

Normalise Kindness

👉 Normalise kindness to others. You don’t need to go to war each time you go to work. You don’t need to crush competition, beat your peers, exterminate everyone around you to achieve success. The world has enough Alexanders and Genghis Khans. It needs more Nelson Mandelas. Warlords were winners in a world of scarcity. […]

The Centipede’s Dilemma

“The Centipede’s Dilemma” A centipede was happy – quite! Until a toad in fun Said, “Pray, which leg moves after which?” This raised her doubts to such a pitch, She fell exhausted in the ditch Not knowing how to run. —- Flow is found post rational thinking. “Darr ke aage jeet hai” they say. “Doubt […]

The Epiphany toilet. Let your mind wander.

Any idea why most of your original ideas come when you are showering, or on the pot, or going on a long walk alone or going on a long drive? When your body is doing some task on autopilot, it is the perfect time for the brain to drift into its imaginative state. To make […]

No new resolutions, but a new theme

1) This new year, I didn’t add any new resolutions. No great plans to be achieved in this calendar year, no big goals to be chased. For me, this year is the year where I will make a few important habits stick (regular exercise, mindfulness in everyday activities, writing / teaching / helping on a […]

Unhappiness

“Unhappiness is wishing that things were another way.” Comparison is the death of joy. Expectation is the death of satisfaction. Ego is the death of contentment. Full acceptance of reality without judgement = Peace. You can call it mindfulness, attentiveness, presence. Embrace the moment as it comes your way without judgement. Try it at least […]

How will you measure your life?

Metrics usually determine how we behave. Incentives drive decisions, decisions drive action. So how will you measure your life in the long run? You can measure success by the amount of wealth you create, or how famous you are, or what ‘legacy’ you leave behind, or how happy you are. There could be many other […]